If nothing else, I just want you to remember one thing in your life. Trust in yourself, because when you trust in yourself, then everything is possible for you. Everything what you desire, becomes achievable. I will do my best to explain you why
You know guys, I studied economy. Like I said before, I have never liked it so I supposed that after school I will forget everything and will not follow “my profession”. Like never. The feeling has stayed until now, but I accepted that it is a part of me and if nothing else, I will always use logic for decision making.
All of us have learnt everything what we know and do, by repeating. It is the only possible way how to do it. When you want to learn how to dance a salsa, you have to know on the beginning that salsa exists. So someone had to show you. It does not matter if you have seen it in a television, read about it in a magazine or someone performances it for you. The outcome is the same in each situation. Then you have to practice what someone showed you. In other words – repeat-> repeat -> repeat.
When we study, we repeat someone else’s words in the beginning. What someone showed us, wrote for us, told us. Then we practice what we have learnt, our minds are „programmed“ that our bodies do what we have in mind. Everything around us is about repeating. Even life itself is. We all do, we repeat the system at some point.
Who does repeat?
What we forgot to learn is we are in this point alone. It is just at us, in our hands. The outcome depends on ourselves. We need practice to improve, we can improve just through challenges. Challenges, hand on heart, naturally scare people. Fear of doing extra steps with the possibility of failure is the number one reason to stop people doing what they really want to. The sad truth is that many of people do not even try to practice because it requires time and trust. Support from inside – from your heart and mind.
So I think it makes kind of sense that if I will put to my mind, that I will became an awesome dancer of salsa, I will learn steps by repeating others and dance by myself. I will let go of fear and instead I will have in my brain powerful sense of the trust. I CAN do it. Logically my body will repeat my mind – and even if I fail sometimes, it will be with fun and trust, faster and more joyfully. When you trust in yourself, you have the courage to accept more of life’s challenges because there is no fear taking place.
I promise you, that you can do anything if you are willing to „pay“ whatever it costs. Trust is very basis of any human action. Do not take me wrong. I am not saying that if you trust yourself to became a great salsa dancer it will not magically happen until you. You have to stand up and find a teacher and than /guess what/ dance.
And why is trusting in yourself so important?
The difference between someone who trusts in themselves and someone who does not is that the first one will stand up and became who they want to be while the other will stay in their comfy couch, dreaming for the rest of their life.
We all will become who we are made to be if we have the courage to trust in ourselves.
Because, It won´t be easy..
I will not lie to you. Living “a dream life” is not a pink cloudy castle in the sky free from pain and suffering. Following your dreams requires a lot of work and fails, many fails. You will have to sacrifice a lot, but good news is, that you have to let go just what you do not truly need. People are addicted to many things what they do not need just by good marketing (trust me, I studied it, marketing is a big lie made to fuck up consumer´s mind to persuade them to buy a product, which is usually totally unworthy for them). But I talk more about, that if you will follow your inner dream you need to make a place in your life for it. Clean up everything what does not fit there anymore.
Everything starts with your decision
Lets just imagine, that I am made to be a person who can open eyes and minds of people to see a beauty of the life. To be able to do it, I had to find it within me and find the courage to spread it. Before, I studied economy and lived life in a very logical way. If I did not say enough to my old myself and did not take the first step in my life which leaded to the place where I am now I would not be able to do it. As, through the life which I had, I just found out how to make money, and how to control it.
So if I just find a job in some big company I would never ever trust myself to have this blog and to write about what I want to write. If I continue with economy, I would be probably now married, have a kid maybe and I would never know what means to be in inner harmony with myself. I would hardly know that it exist, so I would not be able to spread it to world as when I write about something, I have to feel it. I can write about happiness just when I found it, when I know that it exist.
(If you are interested more in my story you can read it here )
Action comes with trust
When you trust in yourself, in your life decisions and steps, you can handle anything even if people around you think that you lost your mind. My grandparents ask me each time when they speak to me, if am I still alone or when I will come finally home. Without understanding that I am seeking for something else. Without trusting in myself, without trusting in my decisions I would get stressed by each new challenge which crosses my life. I do not have answers for how I want to spend whole my life, I do not have answers for every question which I get about my life, but I do not care.
I believe that I know everything what I need to know for this current moment. As I discovered the “power” which I have in myself, and which each one of us have, I just smile and tell some super great story about how world is amazing and how Universe (or God, or whatever you call this power) will send you each time everything what you need if you are not scared to take it. ~Guess what I mean by “power” – life itself! You are alive, and this is the biggest power in this world.
So if you also need some inspirational story I will tell you how I transformed from dishwasher – working for the first time in my life in restaurant, to Chef in 4 months. I have mentioned many times (and I will repeat myself again and again), I take my life as a dream, and I decided to dream a beautiful one. So when I started to work in restaurant I took it as an amazing experience which I can use also in later need of money during my travels (good resume guys )
Find a courage in you
With each day I had more tasks to do and I was enjoying this learning how to work in kitchen of big restaurant. I understood, that my dishwasher salary will not earn me enough money for the van but I really loved to work in a restaurant. I did not want to change this job just because of money. Day by day I have learnt more, so when Head-chef asked me if I want to learn how to cook Thai food (just for fun in extra time), I said yes without doubting. After month of playing sometimes with woks the opportunity came – one Chef quieted and I asked without hesitating if I can take his place.
-We need also dishwasher, so during your training you have to work for two persons, you will be exhausted, do you think that you can handle it?
-If you will not be good, you will go back to dish-washing, are you ready for it?
-You are woman, you are not as strong as men, do you understand that this job is difficult?
-Hard days are coming, Saturdays are stressful, do you think that you can manage it?
..Head-chef asked me during small interview before he gave me a chance.
Yes, was my answer for his questions. I am aware of challenge which I decided to take but I trust in myself enough to do it. If I will fail I will accept it, but with the feeling, that I have done everything what I could to take what I thought belongs to me.
Everything starts in your head, with your decision that you can do it. And trust me you can do anything, and if there is something what you can not manage by yourself, Universe will manage for you.
Small manifestation of my last words
On one Saturday I came back from work, totally exhausted. I arrived finally to my apartment at 2AM in the morning when I realized that I forgot the key of my apartment in the restaurant which was closed by that time. (I have to mention – for the first time in my life). During next 15 minutes I went from –„Ok, I can handle it“ – , through – calling my neighbors and knocking on their doors – no one responded, my small building was empty.
Than I tried to get into apartment by using pin and needle (No, I did not have a clue how to do it, but I remembered that we played with my cousin as kids that we were secret agents, so I wanted to try – no it did not work). I did not know what to do, for about 5 seconds the panic took over my body but then I realized that it will not help me and I started to think clearly. Of course I have friends in Oslo, but there was no one who I wanted to wake up at this time with my urgent need, so I just sat, lighted up my cigarette and lets say it pray (?).
When you are lost, there is a room for whatever
I asked God or Universe or whatever this power is called to help me. But you have to understand, I was not terrified. I was just sitting there, smoking with an idea in my head: “I do not know why I am in this situation and I really do not know what to do, please.. I need a help.”
In few seconds doors downstairs opened and I heard someone walking by stairs. Traveler, after three days of travelling from Malta to Oslo just arrived to my building with a key of an apartment above mine (as he does not live here, just passing with one-night-stand in friend´s place), who offered me to sleep over there. I just laughed and thanked to each power who brought him there. And the biggest surprise was his ability to speak Slovak! There are not so many French travelers able to speak fluently Slovak in this world! This one came to light up my day.
There are miracles happening in this world every day, just sometimes we have to sit in the darkness for a while to be able to appreciate them.
Trust in yourself, than you are able to survive every situation which you are pushed through.
As you always did, right?
Thanks for reading and do not forget to shine. Namaste
Thanks for photos Pinko.